One of the most common complaints I get from my clients individually is that they feel dismissed by their partners, or they don’t get respect from them. If I had a partner that dismissed me, or didn’t respect me, that would make my partner sound like a pretty bad person, right? What if I told you lots of us make our partners feel this way without even realizing it? It can come down to some pretty simple things that we can fix. A common situation couples find themselves in i

One of the most common stumbling blocks I come across for couples is when partner A is upset about something that partner B did (or didn't do), and then A brings it to B's attention. "How could you be so thoughtless, it's like you don't care about me at all!" One of the most common "mistakes" people make during conflicts, according to couples therapists anyway, is being defensive. What does being defensive mean? Something like partner B telling A they shouldn't be so upse

Occasionally when I’m counseling individual clients, the topic of their relationship comes up. Sometimes they’re married and trying to...

The expectations, norms, and roles in marriage today are much different than they were a few generations ago, and these shifts can cause...